I’ve been in a relationship with this GREAT woman thats younger than me by 5+ years for almost 2 years. Shes smart, she attend Northwestern University Grad school. shes funny and more importantly shes CHRISTIAN. I’m currently in the army reserves stationed in Iraq for most of our relationship. I’m coming home for 2 weeks for vacation then I go back. My family HATES her and send her emails and phone calls threaten her to stay away because they think she’s a golddigger. personally I dont think she is but I have been paying her bills like rent and utilty bills which isnt cheap in Evanston IL. I’m very close to my family I have 5 sisters and 4 brothers all older then me. I love my family and I respect their opinion about things. She tells me I should check them about what they are doing to her. I have in small ways but how do you tell your bros- sisters. thats old enough to be your mom and dad to back off? or are they right to be concerned?

I’ve been in a relationship with this GREAT woman thats younger than me by 5+ years for almost 2 years. Shes smart, she attend Northwestern University Grad school. shes funny and more importantly shes CHRISTIAN. I’m currently in the army reserves stationed in Iraq for most of our relationship. I’m coming home for 2 weeks for vacation then I go back. My family HATES her and send her emails and phone calls threaten her to stay away because they think she’s a golddigger. personally I dont think she is but I have been paying her bills like rent and utilty bills which isnt cheap in Evanston IL. I’m very close to my family I have 5 sisters and 4 brothers all older then me. I love my family and I respect their opinion about things. She tells me I should check them about what they are doing to her. I have in small ways but how do you tell your bros- sisters. thats old enough to be your mom and dad to back off? or are they right to be concerned?

WARNING : VERY LONG N DRAININ TO THOSE WITH PATIENCE.

Gracias.

I didn’t ask if I’m a bad person, I know I am, I just wanted to know..To witch extent. I’m still under the effect of everything,so sorry if I’ll sound a.. wee bit emotional.
My mom and dad are separated and my mom lives in another town witch me and my brother come to visit each summer,I have friends there. One of them has a boyfriend 4 a year,but that there’s this other guy who won’t leave her alone keeps sending her things,constantly callin,in the way she described him he sounded a bit..Possesive but I left it there..She wanted me to meet him.The guy was…Damn.He literaly lives in the gym,tanned,body laced with tatoos.my friend didn’t seem to mind all the attention he was giving her but I didn’t mind since she is a bit of a flirt , and I let her be with her playfullness. She went on vacation,and one night out I stumbbled on him he asked my phone number I gave it..The other day he sent me a message that he wants to meet me..Now, I’m 18 and I never had luck with guys or was happy,I was always the…less important one.When something like that happens once,you getting played,used, you think nothin..But when that becomes a pattern you wonder what wrong thing is in you that makes you unworthy of…Loving. Because of these things, I thought that,maybe,having a real guy wouldn’t be that bad,that he was good…
We met and he started talking how he doesn’t like my friend.,showing me all the messages my friend sent him on how much she loves him and telling me he wants to be with me.And we started kissing.Despite my friend having her boyfriend she still liked this guy witch made it wrong but I wanted my five minutes of happiness.We got more and more physical,witch was fine cause I’m like that with guys,when I meet someone I like I can’t keep my hands off em, I can’t control it,I have to have them..Real close. The more heavier the actions got I realised nada of the boyfriend/girlfriend ,I saw it was gonna be a one night stand whe he said..we go back to his place.I was supposed to meet up with a friend of mine in an hour so I thought just a bit more kissing I’ll be off and that will be that.The second reason why I went was because he was good with my friends and I really didn’t believe he would do anything. Wrong again.He’s much older than I am,ten times stronger,bigger and he doesn’t take no for an answer.His kisses turned into painfull bittes I have bruises across my upper body from his ”gentle” touches, I couldn’t lift my right arm for days,..Inearly cried but he wouldn’t listen..I ended up doing anything so he wouldn’t touch me because everything he did hurt.I found He was in jail for six years for cocaine dealing,weapon smuggling,armed assults etc.Hence the tatoos.I was,afraid to say no to him.We didn’t sleep, I never took my clothes off but somethings happened and I left his place crying..I’m a vrigin,and had never doen anything serious with a guy b4 I was digusted..

Mostly with myself. The next day I told him I regreted everything,that I felt empty with him that night to witch he replied he tells everyone what we did and everyones suprised what I slut I am,then he strated making threats how he’ll hurt my brother..On top of it my friend will get home from vacation and I’ll be in my city by then..They’ll most likely meet and he’ll tell her all,God knows what version will he say because he showed her messages to me and twised her story..I want to tell my friend not to score points but just so he doesn’t try to hurt him the way he tried me,to tell her not to trust him because he will bakstab her,that he only wants to use her,that she should stick to her boyfriend whos a good guy..But the type she is she’ll thi she is she’ll think I’m trying to ”separate” them..And she’ll tell whatever he will say to the rest of my friends…I would tell them all,but I just feel..too ashamed.Like…A cheap whore. Am I?