• By tomboytina2002, March 8, 2010 @ 10:03 am Well, i think your parents dont want you to get hurt. If your girlfriend was decent & wanted to do the right thing, she would have a job.

• By Rainbow Sailor moon16, March 9, 2010 @ 2:22 pm Gollllllllllllldddddddiiiiiiiiggggggeeeeerrrrrr… i’m sorry but the fact is shes using you!

• By mcfly_lives, March 12, 2010 @ 6:38 pm they have a right to be concerned. you are family. why would you be paying this girls rent, utilities, ect? i knew a guy in the military who was stationed in Iraq and married to this girl. long story short is that while he was gone, she got a divorce from him, took everything out of the house and sold the house on the guy. no moral to the story, but you gotta watch out for you especially in a long, LONG distance relationship such as yours. religion has nothing to do with how good a person is or not. it could all be a smokescreen to keep the money flowing. golddigger…. mabey not, but stop paying her bills for awhile and see what happens.

• By BayBee, March 13, 2010 @ 1:04 pm From the information you have given me it doesn’t sound like your family has a reasonable reason to HATE her. This is a tough situation because you want to make your family happy, but you want to be happy too, w/ your girl. I think you should try getting your family together w/ your girl. Try to have them spend time together so that they can actually get to know each other. It sounds to me like they hardly know each other at all. Do all you can to make this work if you really love this girl. Also, you need to have a heart to heart talk w/ all of your family members who HATE your girl and simply tell them that you wish they could accept her because you really care for her. Tell them that you wish they could just be happy for you. Ask them why they think she is a gld digger and find a way to prove them wrong. Maybe they should talk about that matter w/ you and your girl together. I know this sounds impossible, but communication can solve a lot of problems. You would really be surprised. Once you try to work things out in every way that you can and you show your family how much you love this girl, then they should lighten up and just be happy for you. Tell them they’re not acting like a family should be. I hope everything works out. Good luck and God bless.

• By Bluuzz, March 15, 2010 @ 8:29 pm Hi there. First, thank you for serving our country. I know my family appreciates all you do there. It’s a huge sacrifice of your life for us. I hope you get to come home permanently, soon. You are in a tough situation. I am a little concerned because you didn’t say that you loved this woman, but you said you loved your family. Do you love this woman? Do you really know her because you have been away from her for most of your relationship. You need to think about that. I was in a long distance marriage (1 1/2 years) and that was rough. We were 3,000 miles apart. When I was finally in a situation where we spent more time with each other we both discovered things that we didn’t know about each other because we didn’t see them…we didn’t spend time face to face. Does your family see her face to face? Have they had more time with her (really…be honest) to see her for what she may or may not be? Only you can answer this question. When my ex husband and I saw each other “in the light” I realized that it wouldn’t work. We were just too different and I was really blinded by what I THOUGHT was our marriage. I really thought it was a certain way, when it really was me doing all the giving. Are you doing all the giving? What does she give to you? Your relationship (and eventual marriage) must be give and take. Regarding the bills and you paying…if it works for both of you because of an arrangement then fine. It’s no one’s business but you and her. Maybe you are from a wealthy family…who knows. If this woman is in graduate school then she is well educated and I respect that…but I also know that people in graduate school are typically broke for a while until they can reap the rewards of their degree and hard work. I would like to know if you are currently engaged to this woman? Are you interested in marrying her? If you did and your family objects, can you live with the pressure from your family and possible separation/rejection from them? Only you can answer these questions…but be HONEST with yourself. Good luck.

• By ReeBee, March 18, 2010 @ 1:29 am Usually when you ask a question like this, you already know the answer, you are just looking for validation. You’ve known your family all your life, you pretty much know when they are serious or when they are trying to get you to do something for their own benefit. You also know how your girlfriend is. You have to figure out what is it about her that you like and not about what you want to like about her. Chances are, you knew what she was about when you first met her, whether it good or bad. People have a tendency to live in denial when its regarding something that they really want.

• By alexbeauty333, March 21, 2010 @ 7:59 am I understand that you are really into her but you two are not married therefore you should be/feel obligated to pay any of her bills. She’s working on her Master’s she can get a job just like almost every other american has and pay her own bills. I can see where your family is coming from. From what you just described she seems like she has the potential to be a golddigger. If she is so much of a CHRISTIAN woman, then she shouldn’t be letting someone who is not her HUSBAND take care of her. Good Luck!

• By labonte43, March 23, 2010 @ 7:30 am **** First of all i want to thank you for serving, and protecting our country, you are doing a very noble thing over there and you should know that no matter what, this american truley appreciates everything you do…. THANK YOU!!! ***i hate to say it but i agree with all the rest..it sound like she is using you, it doesn’t matter what religion she is, even ministers and priests do horrible things and they have commited their whole llife to God, so just being a Christian doesn’t make her trustworthy. sorry.. COME HOME SAFE!!!!

• By Lwood, March 23, 2010 @ 4:32 pm If your relationship is a serious and committed one and this home (that you are paying for) is yours then I don’t see the issue with you paying for it. There’s many cases in which one spouse works to pay for the cost of living while the other attends school. However, if this is a home in which the two of you don’t share (just hers) then I would be questioning her intentions. Maybe your siblings shouldn’t be calling or e-mailing her about it and should direct their concern to you. By going about things in this way they have made you see them as somewhat rude and irrational even though their feelings could actually be legitimate.

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