We planned a vacation that is kind of far away. After the whole thing was paid, I found out my father has cancer and is dying. We can’t recover the money we put out, but can sell off some tickets, but not the airfare or hotel money.

My problem – I can’t go on vacation while my father is sick. If something happened to him while I was away, and he wanted me to be with him – but I was out having fun, I would never forgive myself. I love him dearly.

If the time comes to leave for vacation and my dad is very sick, what do I do? I was thinking of keeping the whole family home, and just forgetting about the money. The other thought I had was to let my husband take the kids and go without me.
I need my husbands support at this time. Would it be horrible of me to try and call off the whole vacation? (He said he would stay home if anything happened) They would have to rush home if my dad passed away while they were gone. Its 2 1/2 hrs by plane, but who knows if/when a flights available?
Dad only has weeks to months left, so the timing is very bad for a long trip.
When i say that my husb would stay home, “if anything happened”, he meant if my dad is really sick or it looks like something may happen. He didn’t say it like he was doing me a favor, he is supportive. I just don’t want to take this vacation away from him and the kids if it isn’t absolutely neccessary. I wouldn’t want to be home by myself, but it might be the more fair solution.
It is me, husband and 3 kids – so he may also have a hard time dealing with taking care of the kids and traveling by plane and all that on his own. This is so tough.