How can I leave everyone I love and move to Florida? I have lived in Arkansas for 25 years but I need change.
I lived in a small area, but it is the home of Wal-mart so in my 25 years it has gone from a place where everone in town can be found at the pool hall or the coffee shop to a place where you don’t go grocery shopping after dark. Ironic that Wal-mart is what caused this mess, yer you can’t even go to their stores around here without being robbed. It just isn’t home anymore. My husband and I decided out of nowhere on a recent Florida vacation that we were going to go home and sell our properties in AR and move to FL but I can’t seem to get past leaving my family. Thay won’t move with me. I tried to convince them but they won’t. We are all very close, but they have as many reasons to stay as I have for leaving. What makes it so hard is my father is my best friend and he is not very healthy. What if I lose him? But if I wait, the home prices will go back up and I may not be able to afford to move if I wait a few years. I may not have much time left with my dad though. What should I do?
I know one thing for sure I want to leave this area. whether I go to Florida or not. People bring up an intersting point in saying it would be a shame to leave if you aren’t sure because it is so hard to get back once you have given it all up and left. I want out of this area, I am just not sur if I am prepared to go 1200 miles out of this area, yet I feel if I am going to do it, I should go ahead and go to the place I have always dreamed of living. It is just so far away from my comfort zone. Not to mention my family.
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By janet_victoria, June 9, 2010 @ 2:23 pm
be very careful. Going back might be more difficult than you may think. I left home in Georgia to move to Arkansas where my husband is from. It’s been a long long time
By spaznskitz, June 10, 2010 @ 7:32 pm
getting out of a high crime area is always a good thing – intimdating sure, but a good thing. Just because you and your husband have the urge to move, doesn’t mean you should be pushing your views on others in your family. They aren’t the ones uncomfortable and having the itch to change.
as far as your family, invest in web cams – stay close via e-mail, phone calls and live feed web chats – set up a savings account for travel and set aside a set amount each paycheck.
By cynthia h, June 12, 2010 @ 2:03 am
my sister moved to florida and it was a great excuse to get a vacation! make sure you have a guest room. there are always cheap flights home, and the telephone. I live in ohio, my son in ny. my mom in ct. and my daughter in nashville and my husband’s family is in England! (that one is a hard, expensive trip) and we were all together for christmas and I still think we are close. when someone is in your heart, they are never far away!
By legal_jess, June 12, 2010 @ 5:21 am
Well if crime is your reason for leaving Arkansas don’t think Florida will be your resolve of all this. Florida has a VERY high crime rate. Depending on which part of Florida you move to. Also you will have a MAJOR culture shock once you move – again depending on which part you move to.
I was born and raised in Texas (dallas) and decided to move out here after one visit. I moved to miami and it has a very high crime rate. Everyone is latin however when I say latin I dont mean just mexican. I am mexican, however, growing up in Dallas I still had to adjust to the influx of a huge amount of different latin cultures here and mexican is very much the minority.
What I do want to say is that you will have alot more opportunities here than you ever will in Arkansas (yes I have been to Arkansas). Florida is great for entreprenual businesses and the ‘international money’ is booming regardless of the economy in the rest of the United States.
I also want to say that you should never limit yourself to what other people do or want to do with their lives. Move down here and have your family visit you. I am sure they will change their minds after visiting. Also, a quote from my favorite movie A League of Their Own “Nothing is ever going to happen here, you have to go where things happen” Trust me, your friends and family wont change, they will always be there going to the same places and same stores/bars/clubs that you were going to for the last 3/5 years.
I was very close to my family as well but I couldn’t let that limit me. I am extremely happy now in miami and it was the best decision I ever made for myself as well as for my future.
One word of warning – it will take time to adjust. I say give yourself a year and a half and if you still do not like living here or you have not adjusted then move back home.